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Mar. 7th, 2007 04:47 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ladynox25
At the suggestion of hoya99, I've deleted yesterday's angst-ridden, sweeping, and somewhat unfair post. Since my emotions have also cooled down some in the meantime, I have decided to replace said angst-ridden, sweeping, unfair post with the following, fair-and-balanced version:
My family and I have been putting forth quite a bit of effort to make my upcoming nuptials nice. This, despite the fact that we've had to make certain substitutes in order not to break our combined budgets--like using plastic instead of china. So there is a certain amount of un-self-confident second-guessing: "Will people look down on us for only using plastic?" sort of thing.
Then, the contract with the caterer becomes null and void if we book for less than 50 people, headcount to be supplied by us by April 1st. So far, of the ~120 invitations that we sent out, ~20 have come back, and some of them are marked "not coming". So there is the panic of "Oh my God what do we do if we have to get a new caterer with barely a month to go?" mixed in with the panic of "Oh my God what do we do if we have 50 people who RSVP and tell the caterer to cook for 50 and then 100 show up, without telling us first?".
Then, since the number of family that *had* to be invited was very large, considering my family, the number of friends I could invite was very very small. Therefore, everyone on that list was someone I really really wanted to be there. Those who have declined are therefore a very deep disappointment. Not to mention the ones who never got me their addresses so I could invite them to begin with.
Finally, although I would like to think that I am not materialistic,hoya99 and I did pick out one very nice set of china and a few other items. Since it is not polite etiquette to tell people where you are registered when you send the invitation, we obeyed etiquette. However, to my knowledge, less than 10 people have asked so far.
Since this is fair-and-balanced, I have to insert the caveat here: "Of course I know people have lives and very busy ones too and it's totally unfair to expect or even hope that they would consider my life as important as theirs."
Still, is it too much to ask for one nice china pattern? One RSVP card? One nice wedding?
Hence yesterday's post, where all this came to a head, not helped by the fact that my grandmother is in the hospital and I'm worried about her, about my mom, and, of course, what this means for my wedding.
We now return you to your previously viewed program, already in progress.
hoya99, I've deleted yesterday's angst-ridden, sweeping, and somewhat unfair post. Since my emotions have also cooled down some in the meantime, I have decided to replace said angst-ridden, sweeping, unfair post with the following, fair-and-balanced version:My family and I have been putting forth quite a bit of effort to make my upcoming nuptials nice. This, despite the fact that we've had to make certain substitutes in order not to break our combined budgets--like using plastic instead of china. So there is a certain amount of un-self-confident second-guessing: "Will people look down on us for only using plastic?" sort of thing.
Then, the contract with the caterer becomes null and void if we book for less than 50 people, headcount to be supplied by us by April 1st. So far, of the ~120 invitations that we sent out, ~20 have come back, and some of them are marked "not coming". So there is the panic of "Oh my God what do we do if we have to get a new caterer with barely a month to go?" mixed in with the panic of "Oh my God what do we do if we have 50 people who RSVP and tell the caterer to cook for 50 and then 100 show up, without telling us first?".
Then, since the number of family that *had* to be invited was very large, considering my family, the number of friends I could invite was very very small. Therefore, everyone on that list was someone I really really wanted to be there. Those who have declined are therefore a very deep disappointment. Not to mention the ones who never got me their addresses so I could invite them to begin with.
Finally, although I would like to think that I am not materialistic,
hoya99 and I did pick out one very nice set of china and a few other items. Since it is not polite etiquette to tell people where you are registered when you send the invitation, we obeyed etiquette. However, to my knowledge, less than 10 people have asked so far.Since this is fair-and-balanced, I have to insert the caveat here: "Of course I know people have lives and very busy ones too and it's totally unfair to expect or even hope that they would consider my life as important as theirs."
Still, is it too much to ask for one nice china pattern? One RSVP card? One nice wedding?
Hence yesterday's post, where all this came to a head, not helped by the fact that my grandmother is in the hospital and I'm worried about her, about my mom, and, of course, what this means for my wedding.
We now return you to your previously viewed program, already in progress.
